Characterization

Writing Tips (Sometimes): When Your Characters Hijack The Plot

Imagine this. You’re writing a story. Putting down the words. Feeling good about the plot.

Then, suddenly, your main character talks back! 

“No!” they say. “I don’t want to do that. I want to do this!”

Has this ever happened to you?

I’ll be honest with you: my brain doesn’t really work like this. I’ve never had my characters talk back.

But I’m very familiar with the story going in a different direction than I thought it would.

This is essentially what intuitive drafting is—whether it happens during your outline phase or during your drafting phase, some deeper part of your brain knows how the story should take shape and wants you to follow its lead.

This process can be really fun—but it can also be really stressful.

So how do you manage it? How do you tell the story you want to tell when the characters keep hijacking the plot?

First of all, embrace it!

Allow yourself the freedom and flexibility to follow where the characters or story want to lead. It’s kind of like reading your book as its being written. It can be rewarding and exciting, even when it deviates from your original plan. In addition, sometimes these unexpected turns can enrich your story, and make the story more authentically you

Secondly, if you’re an outliner, try using a flexible outline model.

This can look a few different ways. For example, perhaps your outline only contains the most key, high level plot points. Everything else, you pants. Alternatively, you can write a detailed outline, but adjust the plot points on the outline when they change during the drafting process. Or, writing your outline at the same time as drafting and see what emerges from that process.

This might be considered “plantsing” to some people, a combination of planning and pantsing. Regardless, a flexible outline will keep you moving in the right direction, but allow you the ability to embrace the characters as they learn who they are alongside you.

Thirdly, have a chat with your characters.

This can take many forms. Perhaps you sit down and write a journal entry from their perspective that explores why they’re doing what they’re doing. Not only could this reveal some interesting plot points or character development, it can also make great marketing fodder once you’ve published the book.

You could also have the conversation out loud with the character. Pretend they’re sitting in front of you and nag them to explain why they’re doing what they’re doing. This works great for writers who solve problems verbally.

Alternatively, role play might work. Ask a friend to be you, and give them a list of things you want to know about the character. Then, respond to them in real time as they have a conversation with you. Let the character take over your brain. If you’re comfortable doing so, you could record it! Either for future reference, or as social media content.

There’s no guarantee that you’ll be able to wrangle your characters back into place. But you can also try to work with them instead. Whatever you need to do to keep moving forward is the right choice for you. But being willing to experiment with different methods is crucial to figuring out your process and getting that story onto the page.

What I Learned About Character Development From My Cheating Ex

When I was 18, my boyfriend cheated on me. He told me that we were meant to be together, and then he hooked up with another woman at a party he went to his swim team.

I didn’t break up with him for three full weeks after I found out. Because after all, we were meant to be together. But I kept getting fixated on this single question: how was it possible that I was meant to be with someone I now knew I couldn’t trust?

Eventually, I decided I was mistaken. We weren’t meant to be together. And if somehow, this relationship was actually pre-ordained by god or the universe or whatever, then god or the universe or whatever sucked. So I broke up with him.

This experience shaped all of my future relationships. It was trust or nothing.

This is me around the age this happened.

And not just my dating relationships. If I felt betrayed by someone, I just left. It was a pretty simple and straightforward boundary. I expected that friends, significant others, people I worked with, and family to keep their promises. And if they couldn’t for some reason, I expected them to communicate about it—talk to me, and give me the opportunity to adjust my expectations.

It also impacted how I thought about religion and philosophy, how I approached making decisions, and my willingness to change my mind about things—in that it set the foundation for me to be confident in the idea that I’m allowed to change. I’m allowed to change direction. And I’m allowed to be wrong.

As part of my fake master’s degree, I’ve been binge-reading romance novels. Romance is a wonderful genre, full of diversity and complexity. I don’t really enjoy romance plots that much overall, but I have been consistently impressed with nearly everything I’ve read.

My goal was to better understand how to write a romantic subplot, and who better to learn from than the experts?

Lately, I’ve been noticing the “singular past experience” trope appearing repeatedly in the work I’ve read.

  • The woman who was bullied in high school.

  • The man who had a specific experience during his time in the military.

  • The person whose father left when they were young.

  • The woman who grew up grifting and stealing because she had no other options.

  • The man experimented on by his scientist parents (yes, this is a very sci-fi trope lol).

  • The person whose parents were arrested right in front of them.

When I first started noticing this trope, I sort of rolled my eyes and thought to myself, “People are way too complex. There’s no way one single experience would have this much of an impact on a person, especially so much later in life.”

Then I started looking at myself.

On one hand, yeah. People are complex. All of our experiences blend together to create whatever version of ourselves we are at right now. Innumerable experiences matter to our current reality. We wouldn’t be where we are if those things hadn’t happened.

But at the same time, that doesn’t mean that one specific experience hasn’t had a more significant impact than most other experiences.

It’s been fifteen or more years since my ex cheated on me. And if he hadn’t cheated (or I hadn’t found out about it), I might have married him. And if I’m going to be honest with you, we’d probably be divorced by now. Because, if he hadn’t cheated then, he probably would have cheated later.

If he hadn’t cheated on me, I might have been less distrustful of others—on one hand, this might have allowed me to have closer, more intimate relationships with more people. On the other hand, it could have led to me not having healthy boundaries and repeatedly getting into toxic relationships.

It certainly impacted how I communicate in relationships—setting expectations up front. Being open about what I need or want. Making my boundaries clear.

If he hadn’t cheated on me, I might not have ever learned that it is okay to change my mind.

Okay, well, I probably would have learned that. But I might not have learned it so early, or quite so profoundly.

I know, hypotheticals are kind of pointless. We can’t possibly know what might have happened. But I can still see what did happen.

So yeah. That singular experience trope that’s so often used in storytelling? I don’t think it’s just a plot device anymore.

Of course I’ve always known that backstory is an important part of character development. But how important, exactly?

I don’t think I need to know every little detail about my characters. It doesn’t matter what they wore on their first day of third grade. It doesn’t matter that they scraped their knee on the playground in fifth grade. It doesn’t matter that they went through a reggae phase when they were sixteen.

But the car accident? Their parent leaving? Failing at something important to them? A person close to them dying?

These are the kind of moments that profoundly shape the way we grow and form, that impact who we become as people and adults. And it’s not just that they happened—it’s how they felt about it and responded to the moment.

Everybody has a cheating ex. Maybe not literally, lol, but figuratively speaking. There is something which had more impact on us than most other experiences in our life.

We might not know it about ourselves. And that’s okay.

But it’s definitely worth knowing about our characters.