Beginner Writing

Writing Tips (Sometimes): When Your Characters Hijack The Plot

Imagine this. You’re writing a story. Putting down the words. Feeling good about the plot.

Then, suddenly, your main character talks back! 

“No!” they say. “I don’t want to do that. I want to do this!”

Has this ever happened to you?

I’ll be honest with you: my brain doesn’t really work like this. I’ve never had my characters talk back.

But I’m very familiar with the story going in a different direction than I thought it would.

This is essentially what intuitive drafting is—whether it happens during your outline phase or during your drafting phase, some deeper part of your brain knows how the story should take shape and wants you to follow its lead.

This process can be really fun—but it can also be really stressful.

So how do you manage it? How do you tell the story you want to tell when the characters keep hijacking the plot?

First of all, embrace it!

Allow yourself the freedom and flexibility to follow where the characters or story want to lead. It’s kind of like reading your book as its being written. It can be rewarding and exciting, even when it deviates from your original plan. In addition, sometimes these unexpected turns can enrich your story, and make the story more authentically you

Secondly, if you’re an outliner, try using a flexible outline model.

This can look a few different ways. For example, perhaps your outline only contains the most key, high level plot points. Everything else, you pants. Alternatively, you can write a detailed outline, but adjust the plot points on the outline when they change during the drafting process. Or, writing your outline at the same time as drafting and see what emerges from that process.

This might be considered “plantsing” to some people, a combination of planning and pantsing. Regardless, a flexible outline will keep you moving in the right direction, but allow you the ability to embrace the characters as they learn who they are alongside you.

Thirdly, have a chat with your characters.

This can take many forms. Perhaps you sit down and write a journal entry from their perspective that explores why they’re doing what they’re doing. Not only could this reveal some interesting plot points or character development, it can also make great marketing fodder once you’ve published the book.

You could also have the conversation out loud with the character. Pretend they’re sitting in front of you and nag them to explain why they’re doing what they’re doing. This works great for writers who solve problems verbally.

Alternatively, role play might work. Ask a friend to be you, and give them a list of things you want to know about the character. Then, respond to them in real time as they have a conversation with you. Let the character take over your brain. If you’re comfortable doing so, you could record it! Either for future reference, or as social media content.

There’s no guarantee that you’ll be able to wrangle your characters back into place. But you can also try to work with them instead. Whatever you need to do to keep moving forward is the right choice for you. But being willing to experiment with different methods is crucial to figuring out your process and getting that story onto the page.

Writing Tips (Sometimes): To Publish or Not To Publish, That Is The Question

There’s a lot of pressure in the writing industry to publish. Have you noticed? Especially now that self-publishing is so easy. 

If you go to a conference, a common question is, “Are you published?” and “How many books do you have out?”

The more books I publish, the more awkward this conversation becomes for me. “How many?” usually follows. More and more, I’ve begun saying, “a few,” and trying to change the topic quickly. 

Because the number of books an author has published, while certainly an achievement regardless of the number, is not the only way to measure the success, experience, or skill of a writer. Nor is income. Or awards.

So if publishing doesn’t guarantee you success, nor function as an indicator of your skill, should you publish at all? Why?

There are lots of reasons to publish, of course, first and foremost being, “I want to.” But you might also want to try to make money from your work. Maybe you want a larger audience. Maybe you enjoy the publishing process or get a sense of satisfaction from putting a book out. Maybe you like the idea of calling yourself a published author. Maybe it’s a dream you’ve always had.

But publishing isn’t all it’s cracked up to be either. There are a lot of people and companies out there trying to make money on writers who just want a published book. There are scam artists and publishers who will charge you an obscene amount of money and provide you with a poor-quality product. There are issues around copyright and reviews, criticism and critique, money and rules. So many rules for every distributor, marketing company, and designer.

That, and it's a lot of work. Whether you publish traditionally or indie, it is a labor-intensive process. And not a process that always brings a writer any particular amount of joy.

So let me just say this.

You don’t have to publish.

Personally, I think “I want to,” is a good enough reason to do so. But if you don’t want to, why are you doing it? What do you hope to get out of it?

And if the reason is, “Because I’m supposed to,” or "Someone told me I should," I’d invite you to take another look at that. Question it. Dissect it.

What else in life do you do “because you’re supposed to”? Why? What have you stopped doing because you realized it was dumb?

You don’t have to publish. If you want to, great! I’m all about it. I like publishing. I do it all the time.

But you don’t have to. If someone says you do, they’re wrong.

Publish if you want. Publish because it helps you pursue your goals.

Don’t publish if you don’t want to. You can always write for the love of it without all the extra crap.

You do you. And don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.

Writing Tips (Sometimes): The Highlights of Pantsing A Novel

You may remember, I wrote a book called How To Pants a Novel last year (this month is the one-year anniversary!). But I also wanted to write a letter with the highlights, in case you don’t have time to sit down and read a book about something you’re already doing (or you have no interest in doing).

The process for pantsing a novel is simple:

  1. Sit down with your writing tools (computer, pen, dictation, whatever).

  2. Find your glimmer.

  3. Say what comes to mind.

  4. Don’t stop, and don’t let the world or your imposter syndrome or your fears tell you what it should or shouldn’t be.

That’s it! Brilliant.

A little explication, in case you need more.

I feel like Step 1 is somewhat self-explanatory. However you write is how you write, and you need your basic tools to get started. Some people need a private office or to be in a coffee shop; others need a special candle burning or a cup of coffee. Whatever environment and tools ease your process, get them. And schedule time to write regularly. It doesn’t have to be every day, certainly. But if you teach your brain that you will let the ideas out, then when you sit down, the ideas will come that much more readily.

Step 2 is a little less self-explanatory. By “glimmer” I just mean some kind of starting point. This might be a completely blank page for some writers. It might be a single image for others. Or a single word. Or a scene. It might be a hazy flicker of an idea. Honestly, though I know people like to think of pantsing and outlining as separate things, it could be an outline. I’m not going to argue with your process, and I think pantsing and plotting are a lot more similar than people like to pretend.

Next, say what comes to mind. Or write it. Or dance it. Or act it out. Let the story come out, however that looks for you. For me, it’s like turning on a faucet. As long as I remain focused, the story just flows. I do want to add here that this is a practice thing. The more you practice letting the words out, the easier it gets. There will, of course, still be hiccups and blocks and clogs in the hose. But generally speaking, the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Five minutes or five hours, doesn’t matter. Just let the ideas out and write them out, whatever they are.

Finally, just keep at it. Don’t stop. I don’t mean you shouldn’t take breaks. Definitely take breaks. But keep coming back to that page. Let the ideas keep coming. You may need to reread some of what you wrote. You may need to go for a walk or take a class or talk to a friend. You may need to source ideas from real life or other books or wherever. That’s all part of the process too. Just remember to keep coming back to the page.

And that’s it! That’s the process of pantsing in a nutshell.

Now, all that said, I think there’s a lot more to it, which is why I wrote a book on it. The book goes a bit into some Internal Family Systems method of understanding the internal workings of why pantsing works the way it does for me. It might not work that way for other people, of course. But in a world where most books on writing, and craft courses and workshops emphasize outlining as the “right” or “better” way to draft a book, I really want to have more conversations about the how and why of pantsing. Not because I expect anyone to change or alter their process, but just in case they can find ways to make it better, faster, and more rewarding.

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Writing Tips (Sometimes): Decisions, Decisions, Too Many Decisions

You’ve probably heard of Writer’s Block. Burnout. Imposter Syndrome. Rejection Sensitivity. Anxiety. Perfectionism. Fear of Failure. All are bugbears that most writers have to deal with at some point in their career. And ones which are frequently discussed in writers’ groups, forums, and newsletters.

But one bugbear that doesn’t get talked about too often is decision fatigue.

Decision fatigue is when you are faced with so many decisions, you begin to experience difficulty in making the “right” decision each time you face another. This topic is often discussed by parents (particularly mothers) but I think it is particularly challenging for writers, and we don’t even realize it’s happening much of the time.

Decision making for a writer starts at ideation. What idea is the “right” idea? What story should I focus on? What book should I write? Where do I begin?

Once you’ve made that decision, then the next questions arise. What point of view? Past or present tense? What’s the first scene? What genre is this? Who is my character? What happens next?

And this spirals into a series of ongoing decisions: where to end chapters, what chapter hooks should be, what new characters should be included, what world building details are relevant, word choice, rhetorical devices, tension, plot twists, adjectives, adverbs, punctuation—and I haven’t even gotten into the rest of it. Pantser, plotter, or plantser? To publish or not to publish? Marketing? Business? Launch strategies? Workshops? Conferences? Time management? Need I say more?

Decision fatigue can lead to writer’s block, imposter syndrome, and anxiety, to name a few of the other bugbears I listed before. The more fatigued your decision-making machine feels, the more the quality of the decisions you make will decrease. You will become more likely to make the easy choice instead of the best choice. You may act impulsively. Or avoid decision making altogether.

And this decision fatigue can spread out into the rest of life as well. If you’ve used up all your decision-making tokens on your writing, then making choices about food, exercise, family time, money spending, and everything else in life will become that much more difficult.

I suppose I should offer you some strategies for dealing with this, as opposed to just pointing out the problem. I will, but first I want to say that these strategies are super generalized, and what works for you might be very specific.

For example, I take weeks off writing, build up a bunch of steam, and then use up every last ounce of juice I’ve got in me all at once. That’s not a strategy that is probably going to work for most people. So if the generalized strategies I’ve described here don’t help, never fear. There are thousands of additional strategies you could use, and if you want help brainstorming, let me know.

Bludgeoning the Bugbear

  1. Build routines. Yeah, yeah, everyone is always saying that. But routines help with so much! Now, I would like to point out here that routines don’t have to be daily like most people say. You can have weekly or monthly routines. You can have annual routines. You can have trigger routines, which are just routines that are triggered by a specific event. So for example, every time you sit down to write, maybe you pour a cup of tea, then light a candle, then meditate for five minutes, then write. It might not be every day, but it’s still a routine.

  2. Pick different measures. You don’t have to write five thousand words every time you sit down to write. We calculate writing progress by words a lot, but sometimes it’s better to measure by scene or by time or by page. “I sat at my desk for thirty minutes.” Check. Do it again in three days. If 1k words equals 1k decisions, then maybe some days you only have 200 decisions to give. So don’t judge yourself by word count. Pick something else—or better yet, don’t judge yourself at all. Just do what you can.

  3. Prioritize decisions. What are the most important decisions you have to make each day? Make those first. If it’s dinner, decide what you’re going to cook right when you get up in the morning. If it’s which project you’re going to work on today, decide that early. Whatever decisions are most important, make those first, or at whatever point you have the maximum decision-making energy during the day. You can even make the decisions the night before for some things. Like plan out your meals for the whole week. Or plan out what you’re going to use your writing time for on the first day of your work week.

  4. Use templates, checklists, and other organizational tools. These are so helpful. I make myself templates all the time. I have a Distribution Checklist for each time I publish. I don’t have to remember; I don’t have to decide. If it’s time to publish, I pull out my checklist and just go down the list. No decisions necessary. I have editing checklists, marketing spreadsheets, to-do lists. Whatever tools help take decisions out of your hands, find them, customize them, build them, and use them.

  5. Take breaks. Long breaks, short breaks, breaks that are just right. Stop early, even if you think you could do more that day. In my opinion, keeping some decision-making fuel in the tank is the key to maintaining a work-life balance. If you’re giving everything to work or to life, that’s not balance. But if you keep some in your reserve tank, then you can use it when you need it. But this requires a bit of self-awareness. You could also stop when you’re at a good stopping place. Stop when you notice your mind wandering. Stop at a specific time. Take days or weeks off from writing or editing and come back to your project later. However you want to do it, breaks are key to both preventing and recovering from decision fatigue.

There are many other strategies you can use. For example, setting deadlines for when you have to make a decision by. Working to reduce tendencies toward perfectionism. Using prompts, timed work sessions, or the pomodoro technique. Delegating decisions whenever you can. Meditation. Self-care.

Most of all, I recommend learning what decision fatigue feels like. Of course, the biggest symptom is indecisiveness, especially when making decisions that should be simple, but you might also experience low motivation, increased anxiety, mental exhaustion or brain fog, writer’s block, impulsivity, flare ups of imposter syndrome, irritability, reduced willpower, or decreased focus. 

Once you start to recognize the signs, you can take steps to mitigate and repair much more quickly—and even prevent it in the future.

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Writing Tips (Sometimes): Royalties Aren't All That

Most writers want to make money off their writing. If not enough to pay their bills, then enough to pay for the writing itself—new notebooks, conferences, workshops, publishing expenses, the like. Maybe you want to start or grow a retirement fund, pay for your annual vacation, or send your kid to college.

However, the unfortunate truth about royalties is that very few authors make enough money from them to live. I could point you to dozens of surveys that show the actual numbers shared by authors (Check out Jane Friedman’s HotSheet, the Author’s Guild, and Written Word Media), but the one that sticks with me the most is that in Alli’s survey last year, they found that the median revenue for self-published authors who spend more than half their time writing and publishing was $12,749 per year, and for traditionally published authors, it was $8,600 per year. And the average income? Over $80k. For those of you who aren’t great at math, this means that the average is extremely skewed by people making a lot of money. While over half of authors sit under $15k annually.

Regardless, $8k - $15k is not even close to enough to live on, at least not in the United States.

Of course, with enough hustle, hard work, financial and time investment, and luck, you may absolutely be able to achieve those financial goals.

But if you are unable to achieve those financial targets, it doesn’t mean your work is bad or not worth publishing. Rather, it simply means that publishing is a difficult business.

Royalties, in my opinion, are actually a pretty terrible way to measure the quality of a book. There are so many other metrics. Like:

  • Did you enjoy writing it?

  • Did it impact a single reader’s life in a positive way?

  • Did you learn anything from the process?

  • Did you achieve other goals during the process of writing?

  • Did it make your life better in some way?

Think of all the books on the bestseller list that you hated but seemed like everyone else loved them. See? Money doesn’t mean a book is good. There is so much subjectivity and luck that goes into entertainment and the enjoyment of literature.

But money is important. We do live under capitalism, whether we like it or not.

And if you would like to make some income to at least enable you to continue to publish, I have a tip for you. It’s called: alternative revenue streams.

Alternative revenue streams are simply other ways of making money. Having multiple ways of income generation can offer a more stable income, as well as allow you to adjust and adapt as the market and your life changes.

Here is a (incomplete) list of alternative revenue streams other authors use, that might also work for you.

  1. Have a full- or part-time job. Tons of authors write evenings, weekends, and vacation days. It’s okay. It doesn’t mean you are a failure as a writer if you can’t immediately quit your job. It just means that publishing is a difficult business.

  2. Have a partner with a full- or part-time job. Many writers (including myself) have a partner who pays most or all of the bills while they pursue their career. This also doesn’t mean you are a failure as a writer. It just means that publishing is a difficult business.

  3. Do freelance work. This is also quite a common method of earning money. I do editing, teaching, and consulting and teaching to help pay for my business costs when royalties are low. Freelance can look like a lot of different things. Maybe it means babysitting your neighbor’s kids. Or drafting content for online companies. Or ghostwriting. You get to choose. And if you do these things to help supplement your business income, it doesn’t mean you’re a failure as a writer. It just means this is a difficult business.

  4. Find passive income streams. Passive income streams are great, though, a bit of a misnomer. A passive income stream is something that you (supposedly) set up once, and then do minimal maintenance on, but it keeps generating income. Rental income is often passive. Or getting paid out dividends on an investment. Setting up Google ads on your website might be considered passive, though if you want to make more money on them, you have to drive more website traffic, which is not really all that passive, imo. I make about $5/month in Google ads, in case you were wondering, with about 2k visits to my website per month. There are lots of potentially passive income streams. And if these options help? It doesn’t mean you’re a failure as a writer. It just means this is a difficult business.

  5. Create online courses. What would you teach about? Great question. Whatever you want. Writing, maybe. Marketing, I guess. What are you good at? What do you know a lot about? Many writers get stuck on teaching about writing, but I bet you know other stuff too. Parenting? Whatever you do/did for a day job? What your degree is in? Your hobbies? Time management? Gardening? Contracting? Throwing birthday parties? And if teaching helps pay the bills, that's great! It doesn’t mean you’re a failure as a writer. It just means this is a difficult business.

There are a lot of other ways to get money. Honestly, I could probably make more money working a part-time hourly job in retail or fast food than I make writing books, and I’ve seriously considered it on occasion, just to make our lives a little bit easier. I might still opt to do that at some point. We shall see.

Royalties aren’t all that. They’re nice, sure. But if you’re not making bank, it’s not necessarily you. It’s not necessarily your books. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure as a writer.

It just means this is a difficult business.

And you’re not alone in that.

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